{"id":2141,"date":"2026-07-01T02:52:48","date_gmt":"2026-07-01T02:52:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sekmesreceptai.lt\/index.php\/2026\/07\/01\/267-i-make-2x-more-than-him-he-feels-ashamed\/"},"modified":"2026-07-01T02:52:48","modified_gmt":"2026-07-01T02:52:48","slug":"267-i-make-2x-more-than-him-he-feels-ashamed","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sekmesreceptai.lt\/index.php\/2026\/07\/01\/267-i-make-2x-more-than-him-he-feels-ashamed\/","title":{"rendered":"267. \u201cI make 2x more than him. He feels ashamed\u201d"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><\/p>\n<div>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"\u201cI make 2x more than him. He feels ashamed\u201d\" width=\"640\" height=\"360\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/HbxW8UhyMXE?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\"\/><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\"\/><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\"\/><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\"\/><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\"\/><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\"><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\"\/><\/span><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" style=\"border-radius: 12px;\" src=\"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/embed\/episode\/2fp9Ey7KDhjTzexF5wPMUA\/video?utm_source=generator&amp;si=213cf949abaf41ad\" width=\"100%\" height=\"400\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\" data-testid=\"embed-iframe\" data-mce-fragment=\"1\"><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\"\/><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\"\/><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\"><span data-mce-type=\"bookmark\" style=\"display: inline-block; width: 0px; overflow: hidden; line-height: 0;\" class=\"mce_SELRES_start\"\/><\/span><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>Ramit Sethi of <i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I Will Teach You To Be Rich<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> talks to Maria and Andre, a married couple in their 50s navigating a difficult retirement gap. Maria has built nearly $500K in net worth, a strong pension, and a clear path toward retirement. Andre, who moved from Brazil and only recently received his green card, is rebuilding his career in the United States with just $16K saved for retirement.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They earn around $187K a year combined, but their financial tension is not really about the numbers. Andre feels ashamed that Maria earns twice what he does, while Maria worries that she will have to carry their future alone. Ramit helps them unpack the pressure Andre feels to be the provider, the cultural beliefs shaping their relationship, and how they can build a retirement plan that gives them more time together not less.<\/span><\/p>\n<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_85 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-grey ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<div class=\"ez-toc-title-container\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title\" style=\"cursor:inherit\">Turinys:<\/p>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-title-toggle\"><a href=\"#\" class=\"ez-toc-pull-right ez-toc-btn ez-toc-btn-xs ez-toc-btn-default ez-toc-toggle\" aria-label=\"Toggle Table of Content\"><span class=\"ez-toc-js-icon-con\"><span class=\"\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Toggle<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-icon-toggle-span\"><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 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uncover:<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-4'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/sekmesreceptai.lt\/index.php\/2026\/07\/01\/267-i-make-2x-more-than-him-he-feels-ashamed\/#Chapters\" >Chapters:<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-4'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/sekmesreceptai.lt\/index.php\/2026\/07\/01\/267-i-make-2x-more-than-him-he-feels-ashamed\/#This_episode_is_brought_to_you_by\" >This episode is brought to you by:<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-4\" href=\"https:\/\/sekmesreceptai.lt\/index.php\/2026\/07\/01\/267-i-make-2x-more-than-him-he-feels-ashamed\/#Transcript\" >Transcript:<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<h4><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"In_this_episode_we_uncover\"><\/span><strong>In this episode we uncover:<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h4>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> \u2022 Why Andre feels ashamed that Maria earns twice as much as him<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> \u2022 How Andre\u2019s recent green card changed his ability to build a career<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> \u2022 Why $16K in retirement savings feels so frightening at age 50<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> \u2022 Why Maria\u2019s pension could transform their retirement future<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> \u2022 Why Andre believes a man should earn more than his wife<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> \u2022 How their finances are combined, but still feel separate<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> \u2022 Why Andre\u2019s business expenses are creating confusion and resentment<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> \u2022 The hidden cost of working six days a week<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> \u2022 Why Maria wants more time with Andre, not just more money<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> \u2022 Why Andre keeps defaulting to \u201cwork harder\u201d instead of building a plan<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> \u2022 How Ramit reframes retirement from fear into options<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> \u2022 Why their future may be much stronger than they realize<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> \u2022 The importance of acting like a team rather than competing with each other<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> \u2022 How Andre could double his income after getting his HVAC licence<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> \u2022 Why their Rich Life includes time in Brazil, leisure, and being present together<\/span><\/p>\n<h4><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Chapters\"><\/span><strong>Chapters:<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h4>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">(00:00:00) \u201cWhat would you do if your partner had no retirement plan?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">(00:01:02) Meet Maria and Andre<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">(00:02:38) Andre\u2019s career, green card, and starting over<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">(00:04:28) Andre has just $16K saved for retirement<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">(00:05:45) Building their Conscious Spending Plan<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">(00:06:48) Their $496K net worth revealed<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">(00:07:34) \u201cShe makes double what I make\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">(00:11:03) How Maria increased her income as a teacher<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">(00:12:35) Learning to spend consciously<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">(00:17:43) Maria wants Andre to have a retirement plan<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">(00:24:04) Their fixed costs and uneven financial burden<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">(00:30:00) How long their savings would last<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">(00:32:47) The reality of rebuilding your life in a new country<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">(00:45:47) Andre\u2019s childhood beliefs about work and money<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">(00:52:09) What if Andre never earns as much as Maria?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">(00:59:04) Ramit\u2019s message to Andre<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">(01:05:01) Rebuilding their Conscious Spending Plan<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">(01:13:22) What their retirement could actually look like<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">(01:17:59) \u201cNone of this means Andre has to work until 80\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">(01:18:54) \u201cIt\u2019s not a competition. It\u2019s a team.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<h4><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"This_episode_is_brought_to_you_by\"><\/span><strong>This episode is brought to you by:<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h4>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Superpower | Head over to <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">https:\/\/superpower.com<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and use code RAMIT for $20 off your membership. #sponsored<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Facet | As of the date of this recording, Facet is waiving the enrollment fee for new annual members, and for my audience, Facet is offering $300 into your brokerage account if you invest and maintain $5,000 within your first 90 days. Head to <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">facet.com\/ramit<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> to learn more about which membership option is best for you. Offer has been extended to 12\/31\/2026. #FacetAd <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">LMNT | Get a free LMNT Sample Pack with any order at <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">https:\/\/drinklmnt.com\/RAMIT<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Gusto | Try Gusto at <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">http:\/\/gusto.com\/ramit<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and get 3 months free when you run your first payroll<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Apply to be coached for free on this podcast at <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">https:\/\/iwt.com\/apply<\/span><b><br \/><\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/><\/span><\/p>\n<h2 aria-level=\"2\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Transcript\"><\/span><b><span data-contrast=\"none\">Transcript:<\/span><\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:00:00:01<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What would you do if you had a solid retirement plan but your partner did not? How would you handle it? Today I&#8217;m speaking with Maria and Andre. Maria is 53 years old. Andre is 50 and Maria is happy with her retirement. But Andre only recently opened up his retirement account for reasons that might surprise you. Let me take a look at their application. Maria writes. Andre is a recent immigrant and has no savings or assets. I&#8217;m concerned about his ability to contribute to our retirement. As a teacher who&#8217;s been saving. I have a good job and a solid retirement plan, but it&#8217;s not really enough for two. The question I have is, what would you do in this situation if you were only eight years away from your retirement? That&#8217;s what I&#8217;m here to find out today. Let&#8217;s get started and meet Maria and Andre.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:00:48:18<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We&#8217;ve been together for over five years now, and I was hoping things that would would be more cohesive by now.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:00:56:25<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Okay, Andre, did you know that she was applying? Yeah. Okay. And what was your take on it? Were you supportive or not?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:01:03:04<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">First time I wasn&#8217;t supportive about that. So I was thinking, I said, I don&#8217;t want to open my financial life to a podcast, for example. Yeah, it was a little bit resistant about that. I&#8217;m working with a therapist. We talk about that all the time, and she helps me a lot to see the things differently. And then I said, so why not? Now I can build a career here in the United States, and I want to be more active in our lives. You know, it&#8217;s like making a good amount of money and managing this money the way that&#8217;s going to be a benefit for both of us.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:01:41:24<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Okay. Where did you move here from? From Brazil. Okay. And how long ago was that?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:01:46:08<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It was 12.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:01:47:02<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Years ago. 12 years. All right. Do you have your green card or what&#8217;s the ability to work? Right.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:01:52:23<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yeah. Now I have my green card.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:01:54:06<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Okay. How long ago did you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:01:55:13<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Get that? September 2025.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:01:57:25<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Recent.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:01:58:14<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Recent.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:01:58:27<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Okay. Right. Any children?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:02:00:19<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yeah. We will have children. Adult children. Okay. Mine are 23 and 26.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:02:05:22<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I have 18 years old daughter. She lives in Brazil with her mom.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:02:10:04<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Got it. What do each of you do for a living?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:02:12:17<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I work as a HVAC guy, but when it requires a license, I have my boss with me to help me out. So I&#8217;m working on my license now.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:02:22:01<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I&#8217;ve been a teacher for over 20 years. I work with adults. I have students from 18 years old to 60 years old and it&#8217;s very fulfilling work for me. I love it. Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:02:32:12<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Cool. My mom was a teacher as well. And my mother in law as well. So teaching runs in our family. That&#8217;s awesome. Okay, Andre, I&#8217;m curious about your work experience and the income. Were you able to work before you received your green card?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:02:46:10<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yes, I was working as a subcontractor and I had a company. They used to pay me by a. I don&#8217;t know the words like commission.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:02:56:09<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Okay. How does the income you made then compared to the income that you make now.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:03:00:14<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So basically I think that it&#8217;s about the same because before I was a as a subcontractor, but I was like all the expenses that I had was on my car, gas helper, insurances and everything. So it&#8217;s about the same thing. I feel shamed sometimes because I&#8217;m putting all my effort on it to make more money, to manage the money and to get a nice result, but I know that I&#8217;m far away from that. I see and I don&#8217;t feel comfortable about that.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:03:32:06<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And have you saved for retirement?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:03:34:16<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Not that much.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:03:35:21<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Okay. How much are we talking about?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:03:37:12<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Now we have like $16,000.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:03:40:16<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Okay. That&#8217;s your retirement? Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:03:43:14<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is my retirement.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:03:44:17<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Got it. So what is the crux of the question here today, Maria? You applied. What are you hoping to get out of today&#8217;s conversation?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:03:52:15<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I feel concerned for Andre&#8217;s situation. He hasn&#8217;t really been in a place where he felt like he could could make a plan for retirement. Like he&#8217;s just been in survival mode.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:04:06:21<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And now. Are you in survival mode still?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:04:08:24<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I think so.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:04:09:27<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Okay.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:04:10:10<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We&#8217;re together. And we recently combined finances, but I only recently started thinking about retirement in the last few years, and I feel like I have a good plan that covers like one person&#8217;s life with him in the picture. It just makes it a lot tighter to try to do, to have like a future together on basically one income.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:04:32:01<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I&#8217;m still working on it, so it&#8217;s a very beginning of my career. I don&#8217;t get paid as much as I would like to have to get paid, but it&#8217;s enough to pay for my bills and send some money for retirement. But that&#8217;s it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:04:48:16<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Okay. Can we take a look at the numbers? Yeah. Okay. What was it like coming up with this conscious spending plan together?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:04:55:23<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It was fun. Yeah, I like it. And I&#8217;ll let you speak more about it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:05:00:06<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yeah. For me, it was a totally challenging thing. My main concern was like, make money but not manage the money. I was like, okay, I need my bills are about $4,000. I need to make more than $1,000.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:05:14:18<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is very common. It&#8217;s like coming across almost every culture that I speak to, every country, every culture. The guy is single minded. I need to just make more money. It&#8217;s classic. Okay, so that was your mindset? Yeah. And then looking at these numbers. What did you notice?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:05:32:27<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I noticed that in certain way of making more money. Makes sense. But if I manage the money, I can get a better life.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:05:42:04<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Nice. Yeah. Honestly, that&#8217;s a huge insight. Okay, let&#8217;s take a look at the numbers. Maria, can you read off the word in bold and the number next to each of these items, please?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:05:54:18<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Assets 44,000. Investments 454,000. Savings 32,500. Debt 33,600.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:06:08:12<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Total net worth.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:06:09:14<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">496,900.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:06:11:23<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What do you think about those numbers?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:06:13:11<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A few thousand more to hit that half million.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:06:15:24<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You might get it by the time we leave this room.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:06:17:18<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&#8217;s true. It&#8217;s true. When I was looking at this just as as my plan, I felt really good about it. Because I also have a pension that will cover at least half of my salary.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:06:29:12<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Let&#8217;s talk about you and what you feel about these numbers.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:06:32:03<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yeah. How do I feel about them? I feel really proud and grateful and happy.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:06:39:01<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Cool. Andre, how do you feel about these numbers?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:06:41:02<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I don&#8217;t feel comfortable about that because I know that most of the money that is there, it comes from her. I don&#8217;t feel that I&#8217;m contributing enough for that. I could be. I could do it better.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:06:52:10<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Let&#8217;s look at the income. Andre, can you read off your combined gross monthly income?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:06:58:23<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&#8217;s 15, 600.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:07:01:07<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">$15,600 a month a month. So around 187,000 now per year. And then it looks like it&#8217;s going to go up to $201,000 soon.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:07:14:28<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Mine&#8217;s going up. We haven&#8217;t put we don&#8217;t know how much his would go up yet so we haven&#8217;t added that yet.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:07:19:12<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Oh okay. So in other words you&#8217;re going to jump up by $14,000 a year in a few months, and probably more considering Andre is going to get his license. Yes. All right. Great. What do you think about that number?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:07:35:25<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Well, I think that is amazing. But at the same time, I feel that I should be like the percentage that I was contributing with. That should be much better.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:07:45:14<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">She makes $10,500 and you make about half of that 5000.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:07:50:19<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is uncomfortable for.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:07:51:25<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Me because you&#8217;re making less. Yeah. Why?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:07:55:09<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I feel like that. I&#8217;m starting my career again. And as a man, I don&#8217;t feel comfortable with that. So because I, I know that she doesn&#8217;t put me in charge of this. She&#8217;s very, very gentle and understanding with me. But my feelings, I like, like, oh my God. So she makes like double that. I make, you know, it&#8217;s like for me, it&#8217;s not comfortable. That&#8217;s how I feel.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:08:23:06<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Is it because she makes more and she&#8217;s a woman? Yeah. Okay. Got it. In Brazil, do men typically make more than women? Make more money? Okay. And are they in charge of the finances? Yes. All right. Let&#8217;s take a look at the rest of the numbers. Your fixed costs are at 68%.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:08:39:02<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It was lower before we combine. Mine was lower before we combined. Okay, but we do live in a high cost of living area.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:08:46:24<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">All right, let&#8217;s look at the rest. Investments at 12%. Is that accurate?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:08:52:20<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A lot of my savings comes out pretax. So the savings rate is actually much higher for me.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:09:00:05<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Oh, because of the.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:09:01:20<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&#8217;s more like 25%. Yeah. What I&#8217;ve been saving aggressively the last few years because I just started.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:09:09:05<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Oh I see. And is that reflected here when it says 23%.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:09:13:21<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Oh not the savings. The investing the investing is much higher.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:09:16:16<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&#8217;s not showing up here because it&#8217;s pretax. Yeah. Okay fine. And then savings. It says that of your income you are saving 23%. Is that accurate.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:09:25:26<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It was until a few months ago. But it&#8217;s probably more like it took that down to 1200 a month. Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:09:33:06<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It says 17 right now. Yeah. You took it down.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:09:35:16<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So yeah. Because I&#8217;m not having been saving for the wedding for the kids and I haven&#8217;t been saving for the car maintenance, so that&#8217;s 500.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:09:43:29<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What do you do with the money now?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:09:45:11<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We&#8217;ve been having some extra expenses lately. Like. Yeah. Like taxes. I never had big taxes before, but I got one of those this year.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:09:53:01<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Why? Why did you not have the high tax bill? And now you do.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:09:56:22<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I&#8217;m making a lot more than I was until recently. And last year, I sold a house. So that offset my income a lot.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:10:05:16<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria, you mentioned that you were able to recently invest a lot more money. How did you do that?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:10:11:20<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Oh, well, I made a lot of big changes in my career. I went back to school. I was able to my my kids fledged. So that was the big life change is now. I could focus on my career. It was never a priority before that. So I put myself through grad school twice and then I asked for a promotion and they were like, tell us what you want. It was really cool because that was my first experience of like, wow, I get to decide what I want to make here. This is awesome. And then I did that again when I switched school districts. And then this new raise that&#8217;s coming up is also promotion. I&#8217;ve been kind of like doing various proposals through the out the year. And then I and I said, there&#8217;s all these things that I want to do. Can I, can I do them and get paid for it. And she was like, definitely.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:11:00:18<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Whoa.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:11:01:18<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And it was a 10% promotion. So it was awesome.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:11:04:10<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You know. Well done. I love that you&#8217;ve been doing it consistently over and over, and I love that you have done this most recently as a teacher, because one of the common critiques I get when I talk about increasing your income is, hey, I&#8217;m a teacher or I work for the government, this won&#8217;t work for me. And while there are pay bands and there are certain things that private industry doesn&#8217;t have, there are ways to get creative, whether it&#8217;s doing what you have done or starting a side business. And I think it&#8217;s amazing what you&#8217;ve accomplished. Thank you. Well done. Yeah. Andrea, what do you think of these numbers? Are you familiar with the conscious spending plan? Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:11:44:28<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We go over it, like, once a month, at least.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:11:48:02<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Really? Yeah. Great. Yeah. You sit down and.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:11:50:19<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You said in a computer, and you go over and she tried it. She she goes like she&#8217;s the manager. She&#8217;s. She goes explaining to me what&#8217;s going on. Okay. And I tried my best to understand what&#8217;s going on and try to do my best to follow it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:12:05:15<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Okay. And what would be an example where you try to follow the conscious spending plan on a day to day basis.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:12:12:16<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Not spending money on things that it wasn&#8217;t supposed to expand because, for example, before, I&#8217;m a big fan of going to bakeries, for example, and go.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:12:21:24<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What do you get?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:12:22:28<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I like chocolate things and things like that. So nice treats. All right. And I was doing that every week ever weekend for example. And when I, when I go there I don&#8217;t care about money. I don&#8217;t ask for how much are you going to cost to just give it to me? Yeah. And I&#8217;m not doing it anymore. We do sometimes when we think that makes sense, but not like before. Like another thing. Like spending money outside of home. For example, I used to go every day to have, like, a lunch somewhere else or going to a gas station and get like snacks, things like that, and pizza and things like.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:13:02:07<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That&#8217;s actually a great use of the conscious spending. Plan it. I love what you said. It&#8217;s like I used to just go to these places and not think about money at all. And now we have the conscious spending plan. Sure, I can still go once in a while, but in general, I&#8217;m not going every day mindlessly, unconsciously. That is exactly the point of the conscious spending plan. So that&#8217;s a great job. Let&#8217;s talk about the disparity in income. So right now, Maria, you earn $126,000 a year. And Andre you make 61 K per year. How do you feel about that?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:13:40:13<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria I know that it makes him feel uncomfortable. And and it definitely would feel more comfortable for me to if he was able to contribute more. But I&#8217;m happy to do it if he&#8217;s, you know, building his career and investing in himself, that hasn&#8217;t happened as quickly as I would have liked. Like, we&#8217;ve been having this conversation for years.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:14:00:19<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And what was the conversation that you had?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:14:02:19<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Basically, like you need a plan so that you&#8217;re not just spinning in survival mode. And like he said, he&#8217;s still there. So I need some kind of reassurance. Like, this is actually going to happen and it&#8217;s not going to be like this forever.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:14:16:29<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you say he needs a plan, what does that plan look like to you?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:14:21:14<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The purpose of it, I&#8217;ll start with that, is that he&#8217;d be in a position where he wasn&#8217;t working all the time and stressed out, and that he&#8217;d have more time to relax and enjoy life with me. Like as it is now, I do a lot of things for leisure that he doesn&#8217;t that he can&#8217;t do. Like he&#8217;s working on Saturdays, he can&#8217;t take time off. He doesn&#8217;t have paid time off, things like that. So like we just took our first vacation together last or in February. All right. In five years. And it was the first time he had had a week off.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:14:55:27<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What did that.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:14:56:09<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Feel like in 12 years? Like he doesn&#8217;t do vacations.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:15:00:16<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Or Brazilians, connoisseurs of leisure. When I talk to Italians, they don&#8217;t. They love leisure. They&#8217;re the world&#8217;s foremost experts at leisure. Yeah. What is it like for people in Brazil?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:15:11:20<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yeah, we love leisure.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:15:12:26<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Okay. That&#8217;s what I.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:15:13:20<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Thought the situation before was my status. I&#8217;m working in my career. I can&#8217;t take, like, days off. Like, because I don&#8217;t have, like, a plane. I work for a company that they gave. Basically, they gave me a schedule. So they are okay when I ask for days off. But at the same time when I when I know that. So I need to stop for a week, three days, four days. I know that that thing going to impact in my income.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:15:40:01<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That sounds pretty reasonable. You&#8217;re now in the building phase of your career, so if you take time off, that&#8217;s going to affect your income. Makes sense. And Maria, I hear that you have built a career. You&#8217;re making more now than you have ever made. And you want to take some time together.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:15:57:00<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yeah. So this is the day to day. But then the other side of that is at this point he has to work forever, you know, and I&#8217;m planning on retiring in like eight years. And so am I going to spend all of that time alone or with friends or can I? I want to enjoy some of it with him.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:16:15:12<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">To what do you think the solution is?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:16:17:11<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They make more money and he has a plan and that he can save more, invest more.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:16:25:00<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And then.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:16:25:18<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And then he would know, like, oh, if I work this long and save this much, then I can retire at this date. And we&#8217;ve kind of run some numbers where if he could work till like 70, if he&#8217;s making more and being strategic about it, it&#8217;s still like nine years longer than or actually more because he&#8217;s a little bit younger than I am. So that would be like almost 12 years later.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:16:47:23<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So if he retired at 70. How old would you be then? 73. How do you feel about that?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:16:53:23<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Kind of sad. Yeah, yeah, I&#8217;d like to spend more of that time together.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:16:58:19<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What would the ideal be for you? What age would he retire at in your ideal world?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:17:04:00<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maybe like 65.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:17:05:10<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">65? Okay. Do people in Brazil save for retirement?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:17:09:02<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Not really.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:17:10:21<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Okay.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:17:10:29<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So not that much. So that is like a retirement in Brazil&#8217;s like. But you can choose by this the amount that you&#8217;re making or you just can wait for the maximum age. They&#8217;re going to pay you the minimum.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:17:24:17<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What&#8217;s the age that most people retire there?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:17:26:11<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&#8217;s about 65 years old.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:17:28:20<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In Brazil. And what does it mean to you that you might have to work past 65?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:17:33:17<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Some way for me is like, scary because I didn&#8217;t know how I going to feel after that age. But at the same time I can enjoy working. Okay, so I feel I feel that I&#8217;m going to be the kind of guy that I&#8217;m not going to stop working. Even if I don&#8217;t, I have money enough to not do anything. Okay. You know, I would like to keep active and doing things.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:17:52:15<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And you are planning to retire at 61.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:17:56:02<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">61 full time? Yeah, I could probably teach part time after that.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:17:59:22<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Okay, so I&#8217;m hearing a couple of things I&#8217;m curious about. You mentioned that you would like him to make more, have a plan, but you also mentioned that you want him to be able to not work all the time and take time off. Those two seem connected. If he has to make more, he probably has to work more. What do you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:18:18:25<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Think about that? He can&#8217;t work anymore than he has. He already works a lot. Yeah, he needs to be more focused and strategic about it. What is it? My mind. Well, like having a license where he could get paid more.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:18:30:00<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">He&#8217;s doing that, right?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:18:31:11<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yeah, he just started. Yeah. He&#8217;s been much more proactive recently, but it&#8217;s very recent.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:18:37:16<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So beneath the surface of. I&#8217;m reading it right. Are you a little frustrated that it&#8217;s taken so long for him to start being more aggressive? Yes. Okay.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:18:44:19<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yeah. That&#8217;s what I&#8217;m doing now is like to increase my.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:18:48:00<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your skills.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:18:48:21<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">My skills. Because, for example, when I start working with this company, for example, I was just doing appliances. Yeah. And the amount of money that you get on it is not that much. But when you&#8217;re talking about HVAC, it&#8217;s much more. Yeah. And I was pushing my boss all the time. I was like talking to him, hey, I, I come to this company since the day one. I talked to you that I came here. I don&#8217;t mind working with appliances, but my goal is HVAC. Okay? And then finally, he gave me opportunity. So I&#8217;m studying every day. And when I go over it, I go like three hours over the paperwork to learn. And because it&#8217;s like a test that takes like 100 questions and requires a lot of understanding of that thing. So as soon as I get that license. I can apply for different jobs that pay me more. So for now, I need to build it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:19:44:17<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Okay, let&#8217;s go back to the numbers. I have a few more questions on your numbers. Fixed costs are at 68%, and if we take out the miscellaneous, they are at 59%. Would you say that it&#8217;s fair to include 15%?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:20:00:26<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yeah. For sure. Like car registration? Yes. Perfect example things.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:20:05:10<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Okay, good. So let&#8217;s say it&#8217;s accurate. I found 15% is remarkably accurate in what most people forget to include. So at 68%. What do you think about that number Maria.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:20:16:27<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&#8217;s too high. Too high. It&#8217;s been it&#8217;s been tight since we combined resources. It&#8217;s felt tight for me and and it&#8217;s but it&#8217;s also been good because he&#8217;s been able to start saving for retirement. So that was the trade off there. And it didn&#8217;t feel good to have our separate finances separate. And I had like all this extra income. And he was like just barely getting by month to month.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:20:40:26<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yeah. As an example, if we split out your fixed costs, they&#8217;re 59%, which is right in that zone of 50 to 60%. And Andre, your fixed costs are 85%.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:20:54:11<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And actually, before we combine mine, we&#8217;re like 48%. Really? Yeah. It&#8217;s because I&#8217;m covering a lot more of the expenses than he is.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:21:02:17<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What you&#8217;re covering like gas.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:21:04:17<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Well like the rent is.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:21:06:11<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You&#8217;re covering more. Is that proportional?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:21:08:09<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:21:09:01<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Okay. Well, that&#8217;s how it should be. Yeah. You make more. You should probably cover more.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:21:13:13<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But I&#8217;m covering, like, insurance, car insurance, health insurance, all the savings trips to Brazil, pretty much everything. That&#8217;s not his essential stuff.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:21:23:11<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In it. You combine your money, right? Okay. So then, like, I&#8217;m curious about the covering this 50, 50, etc..<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:21:31:26<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Why do you. Well, we just recently started doing that and we haven&#8217;t like worked out all the account logistics yet. But also I think that because of the way that he manages his money is seeing how much he has left in his account. Yeah, that it would be taking away a sense of autonomy and and does that seem fair? Like, yeah. Yeah. It would be hard for him to know how much to spend if he didn&#8217;t have, like, his situation is.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:22:02:17<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I count you&#8217;ll ever read a book called money for couples. We shoot.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:22:09:05<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I&#8217;m always, like, placing it before him. He hasn&#8217;t picked it up on his own.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:22:13:05<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Because it&#8217;s interesting to me that you, you&#8217;re married, you have combined your finances, which I think is great, but you&#8217;re still doing this 50 over 50, but also kind of proportional, like, it just seems like a lot of work and you&#8217;ve already gone 70% of the way by combining your finances. But right now you&#8217;re in this very confusing, liminal space. Why not just go all the way when you have been managing your own money in your way for a long time? When you get married, that changes. You can&#8217;t just do it your own way. You have to talk to each other. You have to compromise. She&#8217;s been managing money her own way for a while, and now to bring in a partner and to have to talk about it, that&#8217;s one thing, but it&#8217;s yet another when you are the higher earner. Because after all, you make more money. So shouldn&#8217;t you be the one who makes the call? And actually, the answer is no. Because when you are married, it doesn&#8217;t only matter that you make more money, you&#8217;re now partners. You have to talk, you have to compromise. And that is a challenge here. It can be difficult to combine incomes, especially the longer you have done it on your own. But it&#8217;s also really important because if you continue operating as single people, when you are a married unit, you&#8217;re not really going to be a team. If you and your partner are struggling to truly get on the same page that you&#8217;re cooperating over your money, this is a perfect time to join my Money coaching program. We do live events every month, and even if you don&#8217;t see money the same way, come to our program. I will help you build a plan that works for both of you. Join at.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:23:53:12<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Part of the issue is that he hasn&#8217;t separated his business expenses from his personal expenses in a clean way. Oh, and that&#8217;s been really, really messy. That&#8217;s messy. Really messy.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:24:05:29<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Just you could fix that in, like, one day you got a business credit card.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:24:09:23<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yeah, I just use for my business expenses. I just use my credit card.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:24:14:23<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That&#8217;s awesome. That&#8217;s ideal. And then what&#8217;s where is it getting co-mingled with your personal.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:24:20:01<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Well, because I need to pay for that card. You know, sometimes I feel that it&#8217;s not being fair from the company that I&#8217;m working for. For example, when I buy a part. Yeah. Or something like that. They they should refund me 100%. And they&#8217;re not doing that.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:24:39:18<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They&#8217;re not refunding you 100%.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:24:41:05<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">No. So they&#8217;re not refunding 100%. And when I get my paycheck, for example, let&#8217;s say I spend $100, they put like in my paycheck as like a commission and I pay taxes over it. I see I know that is wrong. That is wrong. They should pay 100%. No taxing on it. So for example, the gas is from my pocket too. They give me like a little bit money to cover for my guess, but it&#8217;s not enough.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:25:11:14<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is like one of the many ways that companies screw over people who don&#8217;t have a lot of power in the labor force.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:25:19:01<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And I tried to approach a company. They ghost me, really. And at this point I.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:25:24:03<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Can. We put this company on blast right now? No, no, no, I don&#8217;t want you to lose your job. And then.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:25:28:29<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I want I talked to her and I said, I&#8217;m not going to go more aggressive with that because probably going to fire me and I&#8217;m going to use this company as a step for my next job. Good. So I&#8217;m working in my license and I&#8217;m sure that I&#8217;m going to get it as soon as I can.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:25:43:23<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Let&#8217;s go back to the numbers. Current savings that you have would last about four months. Okay, not great, but not horrible investment at 12%. But it&#8217;s actually higher because it&#8217;s pretax. Let&#8217;s talk about retirement. So Maria have you calculated how much you will have at retirement.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:26:00:27<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yeah between 10 and 12,000 a month. Gross.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:26:04:19<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That&#8217;s a lot.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:26:05:20<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yeah. For one person. And it would cover two of us too. And that&#8217;s part of the reason why the emergency savings, like the same thought is not that high. Because like I have ten year and we have a very well funded program like the possibility of me losing my job is really, really slim.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:26:23:00<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Okay. You currently make 10,500 a month gross. So you could make more in retirement than you make now. Yeah. So grand total. We&#8217;re talking about retirement. Roughly 100 to 115,000. Maybe a little bit more, it sounds like. Is that accurate from what.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:26:40:29<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You know. Yeah. So maybe similar to what I&#8217;m making now.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:26:43:29<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yeah. Okay. Is that enough?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:26:46:13<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:26:47:16<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What do you think about that? Like, you have kind of guaranteed to make six figures in your retirement.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:26:55:05<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Like I said, I feel really grateful. And, yeah, that&#8217;s the biggest word because I really didn&#8217;t plan until a few years ago. Honestly, I was even on food stamps a few years ago because I was reeling from a cancer diagnosis and things like that. And so I had to make a big shift of like, oh, I get to have a future. For one thing, the time when I don&#8217;t want to be working anymore is closer than it used to be. That&#8217;s why I said I started investing really aggressively and and focusing on that.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:27:27:10<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What age were you when you started aggressively investing?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:27:30:23<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">49.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:27:31:17<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">49? Yeah. What do you think about the fact that Andre has just recently started his career path and is, in my opinion, aggressively moving up the value chain?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:27:43:05<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Well, we&#8217;ve had this conversation before because we can make fun of the age difference like two and a half, three years. Well, when I was your age, I didn&#8217;t have a plan either.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:27:54:06<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But you mentioned your frustration with Andre that he has not changed, developed his plan fast enough. Kind of similar, right?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:28:02:25<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:28:03:13<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What do you think.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:28:03:27<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Of that? I feel like I have been really patient, like we&#8217;ve been having these conversations since I was 49, and he really has only started taking it seriously more recently.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:28:16:16<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And recently. Means what.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:28:18:12<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Like the last couple of months?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:28:19:21<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Okay.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:28:20:05<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&#8217;s not that he didn&#8217;t think it was important, and probably I would have felt the same way at 45. It&#8217;s just that there&#8217;s more pressing issues. And because he&#8217;s in that survival mode, he hasn&#8217;t been able to make a plan. Okay. It just has felt like it was a focus issue because there&#8217;s no reason he couldn&#8217;t have gotten his license before. Like he didn&#8217;t need a green card for that. He could have been ready. And those were conversations that we had.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:28:41:21<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I was in a fragile situation before. I didn&#8217;t have the many choices to have a different job. The company that I was working before, that was the only thing that I found that set me working with them as a subcontractor. At the same time, they knew that situation. They knew that I had they didn&#8217;t have choice, and they took a lot of advantage of it. So I couldn&#8217;t make a plan. I didn&#8217;t have the chance to make a plan. So now I have. I was like, not feeling like up to making a plan because I didn&#8217;t have the basic to make a plan. So I&#8217;m going to make a plan. I don&#8217;t know what&#8217;s going to happen tomorrow.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:29:20:26<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You know how hard it is to move to the US and to become a citizen. I have known many people from when I was a kid who waited for 10 to 15 plus years just to get a visa to come to the US, and once they&#8217;re here, it&#8217;s not easy either. There are all kinds of barriers put up. As you can see, there are companies who take advantage of people who don&#8217;t have a lot of negotiating power, and it&#8217;s expensive. We have to factor all of these things in when we hear Andre&#8217;s story. Can I flip this situation for a second? Let&#8217;s say that a man lived in the US meets a woman who moved here from Brazil. She doesn&#8217;t ever citizenship or residency. He&#8217;s making more. He&#8217;s been working for a long time. And then they move in, get married. He&#8217;s paying more proportionately. Her income is lower. Would this be an issue at all? No, no. What do you say, Maria?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:30:21:13<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Probably not.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:30:22:07<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Why is this an issue here?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:30:24:05<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I think that&#8217;s because I&#8217;m a man and that&#8217;s like that. That belief that she brings from her culture and I bring from my culture to that the man needs to lead, is the one that takes like the the initiative to the things good and takes care of of things. I think that I&#8217;m I&#8217;m being negligent on it, on that at this point because it&#8217;s okay. She&#8217;s she makes more money. But I was supposed to be the one that taking the lead to do the two, to manage the thing and make the thing happen.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:31:02:08<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Okay. Can you be a leader if she makes more money than you?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:31:06:01<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I think so.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:31:06:24<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I think so too.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:31:07:20<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&#8217;s kind of challenging for me first, because I&#8217;ve just got my immigration situation done. Second is the language. So I think that I speak English enough, but sometimes it&#8217;s not that great for to take care of things. I don&#8217;t know how the laws and the opportunities work here, because it&#8217;s 12 years, seems like a lot is not enough to get everything that I should know about how the system works. Working here I try to learn a lot, but anyways, she is much better and she&#8217;s a native.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:31:42:19<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And Maria, what about you?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:31:44:12<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That&#8217;s a really interesting thought. I didn&#8217;t make that much money until recently, and I had the I was child rearing. I stay at home mom for six years. I really like being a homemaker and I didn&#8217;t really want to work full time. On the other hand, being with Andre, it&#8217;s been it&#8217;s been a good push for me to be like, okay, nobody&#8217;s taking care of you here. Like, you got to figure this out. And that was part of the like, shifting gears, because none of the women in my family like my blood relatives, they were all homemakers, primarily. They didn&#8217;t put their careers first. And at some point I realized, like, I was waiting for money to come from somewhere else at the same time, like, I&#8217;ve always been very, very active with the community, with starting projects and like planning the meals and do all the social engagements and all of that. So it&#8217;s a lot of that has to fall by the wayside when I&#8217;m working full time, because that&#8217;s not the kind of thing that he does at all, like I do almost 100% of all of that. So that&#8217;s why it&#8217;s an interesting juxtaposition, because it&#8217;s not as simple as like just trading off the finances. There&#8217;s other trade offs too.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:33:01:28<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Of course. Yes, that makes sense. So much of what we&#8217;re talking about here is about gender and identity. Yeah, expectations. And those are real. Like you have said repeatedly, Andre, a man needs to be a man. A man needs to lead. That&#8217;s real. That&#8217;s in many cultures. I also hear what you&#8217;re saying, Maria, you were waiting for a long time for somebody else to help with the money. That&#8217;s real. And at the same time, I&#8217;m wondering, do we have to simply abide by those roles that we grew up with?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:33:35:18<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:33:36:19<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Honestly, this would not be a conversation if the roles were reversed. If we had a man earning more than his wife and she was working to make more money, but she probably never would make as much as him, and he had to cover some of her expenses because they&#8217;re married and in their 50s, this would not be an episode. You would not be listening to this right now, but because the gender roles have reversed, this is challenging and even controversial. And I want to be candid about this. We have gender roles. They are real, but we should still be questioning them. I actually think that people are more capable than they themselves know, just because they grew up seeing gender represented in a certain way, doesn&#8217;t mean it has to be that way. I know plenty of young women. In fact, women in cities are more than young men in their 20s. So what does that mean? It&#8217;s having quite different effects across the socioeconomic spectrum. And the fact is, we have to start dealing with a new way of relating to money. Let me understand a little bit more about how you each grew up with money. Maria, what do you remember your family saying about money when you were young?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:34:43:01<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They didn&#8217;t talk about it a lot. There was always enough for everything, and I always knew that I would have like my college paid for. But aside from that, it was like if I wanted anything, I needed to earn at least half the money myself. We didn&#8217;t do any kind of like, luxury things, really. That&#8217;s not the way that my parents wanted to spend their money.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:35:06:16<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What part of the country generally did you grow.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:35:08:08<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Up in? Central Coast, California.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:35:09:24<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Got it. Okay. And are your parents still live still together?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:35:14:14<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Live still together?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:35:15:09<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How are they doing financially?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:35:16:25<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They&#8217;re doing okay, but they don&#8217;t like to spend money. Oh, yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:35:22:13<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do they have it?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:35:23:07<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They have enough.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:35:24:08<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They have enough and they don&#8217;t like to spend it? No. Tell me more.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:35:26:15<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I think they&#8217;re afraid of not having money. They both grew up in situations where there were at least periods of poverty. And so they have that that scarcity of feeling of like somebody could lose their job and we lose all their money even though they&#8217;re retired. Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:35:46:07<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You think that they are reasonable to believe that or has it become unreasonable?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:35:51:24<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I think it&#8217;s become unreasonable. I wish they would enjoy their life more. Oh, okay.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:35:56:16<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yeah, you tell them that.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:35:57:19<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:35:58:00<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And what does.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:35:58:20<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It say? They just kind of blow it off.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:36:02:25<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&#8217;s hard to change. Decades, sometimes generations of belief. Do you think any of that also lives in you?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:36:10:06<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One of my money dials is being able to give generously to my family. I really have loved being able to spend money since I started making more money in ways that feel really good and satisfying and fulfilling. So for some reason, I didn&#8217;t take that on. Yeah, yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:36:27:19<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Did you think that was accidental or was it purposeful?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:36:31:13<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When I left for college, I just really shed a lot of my family beliefs and really didn&#8217;t take those with me.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:36:37:21<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yeah. How did you do that?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:36:38:18<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I don&#8217;t know, I was just really open to new thoughts and ideas and did things really differently than my parents. Even if I would come visit for a little while, I&#8217;d be like, so how long are you staying for?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:36:48:15<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Oh, really?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:36:49:04<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yeah. Yeah, they my dad basically had the the thought that like, once you&#8217;re 18, you&#8217;re on your own financially. Except for a pain for college.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:36:56:28<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Wow.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:36:57:23<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">He instilled a lot of independence in that way.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:37:00:00<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And did both of them work or just one?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:37:02:01<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Just my dad. My mom, she had a career, so to speak. She was also a teacher. She got her masters in linguistics, but she only worked really part time. She put everything else first and she never made good money doing that.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:37:18:21<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I see.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:37:19:13<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Her significant money, I should say.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:37:21:05<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Does she ever talk to you about money? No.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:37:24:28<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Not really.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:37:26:03<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And your dad? No, no.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:37:28:12<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Not really.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:37:29:00<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Okay. Where have you learned about money from?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:37:31:11<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">From you. Okay. From other people on the internet.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:37:34:21<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How&#8217;d you do that? Did you go online searching for, like. Yeah, investing and things like that. Yeah. Okay. That&#8217;s cool. And when you encountered this, what was your reaction to all this material, books and things out there?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:37:47:01<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Well, I think that he and I are both had this sense of, like, being responsible with money, but not planning it or managing it. Like beyond the month to month. Okay. And so I definitely had a feeling of like I could have been doing this differently for all this time. Yeah. But I do remember my thought process when I was younger was like the future was uncertain and who knows, like if the world was going to implode by then and and then what? What good would all that money do? Me at that point.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:38:20:02<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Right.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:38:21:17<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So now I&#8217;m like, well, it&#8217;s probably going to be around in some form in eight years, so it feels more real.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:38:27:03<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is very common, you know, especially when people are young, kind of like little nihilistic. And they go like, who knows? I&#8217;ll be dead by then. And so you can&#8217;t take it with you. All these phrases that we&#8217;ve absorbed. And then as we get into typically 40s, we go, wait a second. Like, I actually know people who are older and they&#8217;re not in a good situation. Or the word retirement starts to loom as more real. So it&#8217;s classic, classic path you. Sure. That&#8217;s pretty interesting. What messages about money do you think you bring from your family to this relationship?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:39:02:10<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I definitely carry a sense of responsibility for the household in terms of like the grocery shopping and food and household finance management in that kind of way. I think a lot of women that work full time joke like, I wish I had a wife, you know, that kind of thing. And so I&#8217;m, I&#8217;m doing both of those roles. I definitely feel like men should work. Like, it would feel awkward to me if if he if I was, you know, supporting him 100%. So I guess that&#8217;s a message that I&#8217;m bringing on. And I don&#8217;t necessarily feel that way about women, like, because I see that women do so much caretaking, and so I feel like it can be more acceptable.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:39:43:19<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andrea, what about you? What do you remember about your family saying around money when you were growing up?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:39:49:24<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">No talking about money.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:39:51:03<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">At all. None.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:39:52:01<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">None.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:39:52:21<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Is that common?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:39:53:18<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yeah, I think that it&#8217;s coming in Brazil. So my my dad was like a hard worker the whole life. He was like, always providing. We never had, like, a hard time at home. Okay. It&#8217;s like a tight life. No, not rich people, but always. We were living in a nice place, having everything that we need. We went to the school. My father was providing for everything. But I remember that was like when I was asking him, or would you like to have the bicycle or would you like to have this and that, or a trip or something? Or the answer was always.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:40:28:29<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">No, really? No. And then what?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:40:32:01<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">No. Impure.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:40:32:25<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It. That&#8217;s it. And what did you say when he said no? Well.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:40:37:25<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I didn&#8217;t have a chance to say anything.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:40:40:00<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Okay. Just end of story.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:40:41:19<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In this story. And then when I became a 14 years old, I started working to make my own money to get the things that I couldn&#8217;t have for my from from my family. But I didn&#8217;t have an idea how to manage the money, because we never talk about that.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:40:55:00<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Did your mom work? No. Okay. Just at home. She was at home. All right. And how many siblings do you have? Just one brother. Okay. Got it. All right. When you were 14, what job did you get?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:41:06:06<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I was like, I was working in an administration. Was like.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:41:09:26<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A like a messenger.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:41:10:27<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Kind of.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:41:11:08<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A messenger.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:41:11:29<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Okay. And what did you do with the money that you made?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:41:14:10<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Basically, I was using to have fun and buy clothes. Okay. That I would you like to have my my parents never give to me. Got it. So in Brazil, we have a nice couch, a different culture. So teenagers in Brazil, they like to wear brands. And I never had a brand sneaker, for example, or something like that. That was okay. Now I can buy it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:41:35:01<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Cool.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:41:35:17<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">All right. And he was hustling to like the in Brazil. They they let teenagers go to school at night. So he was working full time during the day and then going to high school.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:41:46:13<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">School at night? Really?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:41:47:23<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yeah. Like, we both started working around the same time and I felt like I was doing a lot, but compared to Brazilian standards. No.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:41:54:09<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Wow. That&#8217;s quite interesting. Andre, what messages about money from your childhood do you bring to this relationship?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:42:04:03<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Money is tight. Money is like scarcity. Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:42:08:24<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&#8217;s not enough.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:42:09:26<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You have to make money and hold it. Don&#8217;t spend money at the same time, I think so. I work so hard, I deserve, I deserve it to have, like, a better life. I deserve to go to a restaurant and look at the menu to the left side, not the right side. I don&#8217;t want to. I don&#8217;t care about how much. How much are they going to charge me. So I want this dish. You know, I feel so if I don&#8217;t have money, I don&#8217;t go, period.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:42:38:27<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And if I do go, I&#8217;m going to get what I want.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:42:42:05<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yeah, exactly.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:42:42:28<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I think he definitely brings that, that like work hustle ethic of like just keep on working, keep on working, keep on paying the bills. And rather than like the vision. Yeah. You know.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:42:55:28<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yeah definitely is.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:42:56:29<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Right. And to a higher degree than like anybody I grew up with or no meaning the US. Work harder.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:43:03:22<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yeah. Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:43:04:12<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Like it&#8217;s more of a immigrant work ethic that I see.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:43:07:06<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Like.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:43:07:20<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yeah, you&#8217;re gonna work two jobs in one day. You know.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:43:10:11<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Many people who come here just. I just need to work hard, and I. That vision thing is, I don&#8217;t understand what that is. I&#8217;m just going to double down and work harder than anybody else. How much of this is resonating with you?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:43:21:02<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I think that is 100% accurate.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:43:23:07<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How do you think all that contributes to where you are today?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:43:27:10<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The main thing is, like, we never knew about money before. We could start earlier. Yep. For saving money and planning the future and everything.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:43:39:07<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yeah. One thing I heard about you. There wasn&#8217;t a lot of planning going forward. It&#8217;s just like work hard to.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:43:44:24<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Work and pay the bills. That&#8217;s it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:43:46:19<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yeah. That&#8217;s it. And that&#8217;s for life. Okay. What&#8217;s the laughter like?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:43:52:14<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That&#8217;s not a plan. Yeah, but I definitely like respect that. He is a hard worker and that&#8217;s something I&#8217;ve always appreciated about him from day one. But yeah that balance. We really need that balance.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:44:06:21<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do not wait to learn about money and definitely do not wait to talk about money. She didn&#8217;t start taking action on her money until her late 40s. He didn&#8217;t take his money seriously either. And this is exactly what happens when it comes to personal finance. This is why I want you to learn about your money, and then you to talk to your kids about money. I am sick of so many people growing up with their parents never talking about money, and then they are left defenseless to figure it out on their own. That&#8217;s why I wrote my books. That&#8217;s why I started this podcast. Take control and stop waiting for someone to come save you. What else do you make of what I said about the clues from your childhood? Maria? How do they combine to bring you to where you are today?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:44:47:14<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I know it adds to his sense of shame that he mentioned because. Because like he said, though, he feels the man should work. And I think by that he means should contribute more Fang naturally than the woman does.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:44:59:23<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Should make more, should contribute more.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:45:01:13<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yeah, yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:45:02:00<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I don&#8217;t think there should be more. I think there should be balanced.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:45:07:27<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Does that mean equal?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:45:09:00<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Not equal. I don&#8217;t mind if it was a little bit less. For example, I would like to share at least 50% with everything you know.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:45:17:21<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Okay. What if you never make as much as Maria?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:45:21:15<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I wouldn&#8217;t care about her at all as I about how much she she was making or not. Oh, she was me in her in her in her place. Yeah, I would say like, okay, making money enough to have your to do your things, to contribute with this and this and that. I will take care of the rest. I really don&#8217;t care. Okay. It was my position if I was in her shoes.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:45:48:02<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I&#8217;m okay with that. If he has leisure time and that he&#8217;s, like you said, kind of covering your own bills. Because honestly, in the last well, almost since we met. I&#8217;ve been actually covering some of his business expenses, mainly the vehicle, the he&#8217;s never really been able to cover a work vehicle that&#8217;s needed for his job. And it&#8217;s a huge money drain. Yeah. I think if he had those bases covered and didn&#8217;t have to work until he was 80 or whatever, then yeah, I&#8217;m okay with it being in balance for sure.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:46:21:10<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Okay. That&#8217;s cool. That&#8217;s actually that&#8217;s actually pretty different than how you were both raised. So I appreciate you coming up with perhaps a different vision than you grew up with, but that might be right for the two of you. Let&#8217;s dial in a little bit more on that rich life. Have you talked about it? Yeah. What is it? What&#8217;s your rich life, Maria?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:46:44:15<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Well, then I have more time with my husband. In many ways, I feel like we&#8217;re already living it. I&#8217;m really happy with our life. Get to live in a beautiful place and be in nature. Go to the beach almost every day and get to spend good time with my family. And most of the family is pretty close. If I could wave a magic wand and have everything I wanted, then we&#8217;ve both mentioned that we would like to have our own house. I don&#8217;t see how that could happen where we live now very easily in our current situation. But and then I like to travel. You could see on our CSP that that&#8217;s like a high area where we save for and stuff.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:47:25:09<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Where do you like.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:47:25:25<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">To go? I just got back from the desert with my kids. I like to go there every spring. Our our vision is to go to Brazil every winter and not have to do winter over here. Nice. Cool. Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:47:36:28<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Okay. What about you, Andre?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:47:38:28<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Rich life for me is balance, you know? So being responsible with the money. But if I want to do something or buy something that I think that is reasonable or just for a desire, let&#8217;s say that I want to buy, like a boat or something like that. That was like, oh, really wouldn&#8217;t buy this, and I can count on the money and go there and purchase whatever I want, being reasonable for sure, and have a balance of life. Talking about how many hours and how hard or.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:48:11:04<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Work how many hours do you want to work in your rich life?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:48:13:09<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">40 hours a week. And that&#8217;s it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:48:14:28<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And what about traveling to Brazil? Is that part of your rich life?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:48:18:25<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yeah, it is actually, it is less like a like she said before, we would like to expand the wintertime American wintertime in Brazil because the summertime over there, it&#8217;s going to be great.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:48:30:18<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Okay. In the sense of relaxation that comes from that, because we&#8217;re both kind of exhausted at the end of the day.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:48:36:21<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yeah, that&#8217;s one thing that I would like to say to you is like, she is mentioning that she would like to have more my presence, more like doing things after work and a weekend. I&#8217;m exhausted.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:48:49:28<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Man.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:48:50:26<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I can I even if I go, I going to sleep, you know, I&#8217;m not going to be present in that. It&#8217;s just going to be my body in there. My soul is going to be in another place, totally different because I feel totally tired, exhausted. I work really hard. For example, Friday I was working underneath a house all day long, replacing ducts and in a space like maybe 11in. Wow. I barely fit in there.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:49:19:15<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So to come back home after that, it&#8217;s like you&#8217;re checked out. Yeah, I want to.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:49:24:26<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Take a shower and eat and don&#8217;t bother me. Leave me alone. Okay.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:49:28:29<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And he often works Saturdays. Yes. He&#8217;s just spending Sunday recuperating.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:49:36:06<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I think I have a much better understanding of both of you and where you came from and the financial situation. Now, I&#8217;m curious. You have told me what your rich life is. It seems quite aligned. What do you think you could do with your numbers to make your rich life possible? Just conceptually, what major big things might you shift in the conscious spending plan to be able to live the rich life that you described?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:50:07:16<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I think it needs a job that values him and pays him better.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:50:10:18<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I&#8217;m working on it. I&#8217;m working hard on the first of all, I need my license and then there is a good opportunities over there.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:50:16:17<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I agree. So what you said I totally agree with. I think everybody here agrees a better job that&#8217;s more stable and that values you. Yeah. Number one that solves a lot of problems. Right. And you&#8217;re on the path to doing that. Yeah okay. So that&#8217;s number one. What else.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:50:32:21<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Having the joint accounts so that it&#8217;s more smooth and doesn&#8217;t feel like a who&#8217;s doing what kind of thing.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:50:38:13<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Agreed. That&#8217;s a great insight. Number two is the two of you truly acting like a team. Your money&#8217;s already combined for the most part. So just go the extra step and the two of you look at it together. That will be awesome. That will make you much more of a team. Instead of this his and hers mentality, I agree. Anything else?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:51:01:04<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Keeping the business expenses separate? Yes. So it&#8217;s not a drain.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:51:05:04<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">100%. Yes. There&#8217;s got to be separation because that makes everything two confusing. It&#8217;s just unclear what&#8217;s going on. Then there&#8217;s resentment. We don&#8217;t want that. Yes. Clear separation. What else?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:51:16:20<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Understanding.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:51:18:25<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tell me more.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:51:19:13<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Being understanding about the situation that we are. Yes. So for my for my side I need to understand that she makes more money than me. She&#8217;s she knows my situation and I, I, I don&#8217;t need to be like that that defensive about that and she from her side understand that what my situation now and understand that it takes time I&#8217;m working on it. You know.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:51:48:24<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I think that&#8217;s actually beautiful understanding, acceptance. I love that you led with yourself. First you said I need to accept. I need to understand that she makes more and not be defensive about it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:52:05:17<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That&#8217;s yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:52:07:16<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Very powerful. And I love that you then said this is what I need from her. Very powerful. I kind of want to acknowledge Andre. There&#8217;s so many things that I notice and that I admire about him. Before we started recording, he mentioned that his English was not particularly good, and he asked if sometimes if he didn&#8217;t understand what I was saying, if I could repeat it in a different way. And I was kind of surprised because I thought his English is excellent. What really surprised me about Andre is his self-awareness. Growing up in one culture and coming to another is not easy. He talks about the culture he grew up in, talks about the culture here. He acknowledges that he has not done a great job being a leader, and he also talks about how tired he is when he comes home from six days a week of work. There&#8217;s a lot to be said for being able to acknowledge where you are, your weaknesses, and one of the things that I hope to be able to help them with is where to go from here. What I&#8217;m seeing here is you were raised in the US, even though you were not taught about money, and you were relatively recently on food stamps. But actually your career has done very, very well. You married Andre, who came from another country, grew up hustling. That&#8217;s what he saw from his dad. Now. Yeah. I don&#8217;t think that according to maybe US standards, you have not strategically operated your career in the way that somebody who&#8217;s taken my dream job program would. But you&#8217;ve worked hard. You have been agile with these companies that may not have treated you particularly well. You&#8217;re getting a license and you&#8217;re on the path to get another job. I think that&#8217;s really powerful to accept. Maria. You&#8217;re always going to make more money. That&#8217;s just the nature of you having chosen this career path, etc.. And that means you&#8217;re probably going to shoulder proportionally more of the expenses. I think that&#8217;s you got to accept that. But then I just zoom out and I go, wait a minute. Why are we even talking about this? The two of you are married, so it&#8217;s less about who&#8217;s shouldering what and more like, what&#8217;s the rich life vision and how can both of us get there? Now, if you&#8217;re Maria, if you&#8217;re like, look, I make more money, so I don&#8217;t want to have to go grocery shopping anymore. Fair enough. We can talk about that. We can find a solution that&#8217;s totally reasonable. But I think that the moment we get out of the me versus you and instead go to us, you actually are in an amazing position. How does that strike both of you?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:54:51:18<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It sounds reasonable.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:54:52:28<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yeah, it sounds true. We had that conversation like 2 or 3 weeks ago and it ran some numbers and I was like, you know what? Even if nothing changed, we&#8217;re going to be okay.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:55:02:14<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Really?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:55:03:04<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yeah. In terms of financially.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:55:05:13<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Okay.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:55:06:00<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We still want him to work less and not be so exhausted all the time so that that piece needs to change. But and it wouldn&#8217;t be as much as we would like and that I think that he deserves. But it&#8217;s not like a dire or scary situation, which that was kind of a shift. I was like, I think we might be in a scary situation here together. But when I when we looked at the numbers more closely, it was like, okay, we&#8217;re going to be okay.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:55:32:12<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Wow. That&#8217;s powerful. How did you feel when you came to that realization?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:55:37:16<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I felt relief.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:55:38:28<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Nice.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:55:39:17<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:55:40:13<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What about you, Andre? I don&#8217;t think you realized it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:55:42:29<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yeah, no, we talk about that.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:55:44:24<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But did you feel it or did you say, okay, I need to work more?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:55:52:02<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I feel that because the culture that she has and the beliefs that she has, she understands that. What&#8217;s the best idea to get there? But like, as you said before. So you&#8217;re not like that from since the beginning? Yes. So it&#8217;s not your set up.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:56:12:03<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yeah. That&#8217;s not your default.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:56:13:17<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Not a default.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:56:14:15<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:56:15:01<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And then once in a while that, that default pops up and.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:56:22:07<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I need to work more.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:56:23:17<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And then I feel threatened okay.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:56:25:11<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yes. So this is not just one person who needs to change. It&#8217;s both because Maria, as I&#8217;ve spoken to her, I told her, look, you make more and that is something you were going to have to accept. If you want to live this rich life together, with more time together, you&#8217;re going to have to accept it and get comfortable on the expenses. But she&#8217;s not the only one who has to change. No, you have to take the leadership on other areas, like making the plan it effectively, working with your boss, jobs, etc. how do you feel about that?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:57:03:04<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I would love for him to take more initiative. Okay, I&#8217;m definitely the leader manager in the relationship right now.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:57:08:20<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Actually, we were talking about yesterday and we were having like a pizza last night and where she was like I was trying to say what I wanted to is she was taking the decision and I let, let her do it. And then at the end of the said, I need you. How would you like to choose? How would you like to take the the lead on it? I would you like to say what I want? And you don&#8217;t like me? I&#8217;m not fighting with you. Just suggesting that. Let me do it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:57:39:11<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Wow. That&#8217;s true. This is a very powerful lesson over pizza. Actually. Very amazing. I know you see a therapist. Do the two of you see one together?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:57:49:00<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We should. We do not.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:57:50:03<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I think that would be amazing. This. This pizza is the first thing that I think you should bring up. This dynamic is co-created. It is not just one of them. And the good news is that even though they are in their 50s, they still can make a change. And the powerful thing they have here is a vision of a rich life that is inextricably together. We&#8217;re going to go to the numbers, and what we&#8217;re going to do is we&#8217;re going to look at them and see what changes, if any, you want to make, specifically in your conscious spending plan to be able to live the rich life that you want. We have a gross monthly income. I&#8217;m actually going to just increase this. Are you okay with that? Sure. Let&#8217;s fast forward. Okay. So how much should I put.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:58:33:07<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&#8217;s on the left there. 11 670. 11 six would be my my contribution okay.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:58:39:10<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">11 six seven. Yeah. Right there 63%. Now fixed costs.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:58:44:23<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yeah. It&#8217;s much better.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:58:45:28<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Much better. So we went down from 68 to 63. Rent isn&#8217;t going to change. Utilities is not going to change insurance fund car payment at 770. Not changing. Correct.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:58:55:16<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Not for four years.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:58:56:11<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What car.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:58:56:24<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Is it?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:58:57:07<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tacoma Toyota. Tacoma.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:58:58:25<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tacoma.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:58:59:07<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&#8217;s a very reasonable car. How&#8217;d you get it? At 2.99%.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:59:02:16<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I have amazing credit.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:59:05:01<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yeah, because of her credit. It was really nice. Yeah. And we got like. And at the end of the year and that that&#8217;s what I think.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:59:14:22<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Is the best time to buy a car. Yeah. Yeah. They&#8217;re desperate. Yeah. December 30th to.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 00:59:19:26<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Put in a market. The new one and the one that they have in stock got to go.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:59:24:25<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I love it. This is what I did exactly. Walking in and watching the absolute desperation on the sales floor. And people are like, oh, you&#8217;re so mean to car salespeople. I&#8217;m not mean, but I&#8217;m going to extract every last dollar when I am buying a car. So amazing. December mid-December to the end of the year. Beautiful time to buy. Great job. Okay. And then after that that goes away as well.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:59:51:19<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Well he&#8217;s burns through vehicles. That&#8217;s the thing.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:59:54:07<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So yeah you can&#8217;t burn through it Toyota in five years.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 00:59:57:28<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">At least 3000 miles a month.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 00:59:59:18<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Okay.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 01:00:00:25<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yeah we&#8217;ll see.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 01:00:02:05<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We&#8217;ll see. You not going to find me arguing against a Toyota on this show. Gas and EV charging whatever. Debt payments at zero. Well done. Groceries at 800. All right. Child support at 325. Not changing. Not changing. Okay.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 01:00:16:17<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Actually, we it&#8217;s about to change because she turns 18 years old.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 01:00:21:25<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Oh. So should we take it off?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 01:00:24:01<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Not enough for now. Because that is like the laws are changing in Brazil. I don&#8217;t know what going to happen.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 01:00:29:24<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">All right, let&#8217;s leave it. Okay. Look. Cut to the chase. The miscellaneous here. If you wanted to, you could reduce that. It&#8217;s $1,000 a month. People who do not track carefully at all, they incur 15% extra. But if you make it a point to track, you can usually cut this number down by 50 to 80%. So it just depends on if you want to do this or not.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 01:00:56:09<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">My sense is that it&#8217;s covering things that we&#8217;re aware of, but it&#8217;s just for the simplification of the the spreadsheet. Just put them all in that one category.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 01:01:05:12<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So keep.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 01:01:05:23<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It I think so.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 01:01:07:03<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Okay great. Let&#8217;s keep it then. All right. Investments you&#8217;re at 11% savings including $1,000 a month for Brazil travel. Is that accurate?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 01:01:20:04<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Well, in other vacations. Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 01:01:22:21<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">All right. Keeping it and then wow. Look at this down. You now have $1,832 a month in guilt free spending. That&#8217;s 15% right now. You&#8217;re spending less than that, correct?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 01:01:37:03<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 01:01:37:19<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So I mean, again, you have money to play with. You could take 500 bucks, 800 bucks a month, whatever the number is, and put it into investments if you like. What do you think? Why is it getting so quiet in here?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 01:01:50:18<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I think because we haven&#8217;t experienced those numbers yet. Because they&#8217;re happening in the future. So I&#8217;m like, where did all that extra money come from? Yeah. So this is thinking ahead of like, okay, when we start making more money, where do we want that extra money to go? This is.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 01:02:05:04<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&#8217;s kind of hard right? Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 01:02:06:14<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Okay. I just now actually clicked that in. Yes.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 01:02:09:23<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is what. So I love this the difficulty you are having in like first of all just believing that this is going to happen. And then second, like, what do I do with this? That is so common because most of us never plan. Never. We&#8217;re literally just reacting day by day. All this expense, that expense. Where&#8217;s the money? And what we are doing here with the CSP is zooming out, even zooming forward in time a few months when the new raise comes in and now we&#8217;re like, whoa, we have way more money than we thought. What are we supposed to do with? But notice that it&#8217;s difficult for you to make a plan. It&#8217;s also difficult for him to make a plan. So the two of you are actually in this more together than you realized. Making a plan is not natural to most people.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 01:02:56:12<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">No, not.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 01:02:57:00<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Definitely not. So let&#8217;s work the plan right now. According to this, you have $1,800 a month in guilt free spending. I think you should spend some money, guilt free, go out to nice dinners.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 01:03:06:20<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And yeah, I think doing 500 a month in investments to help with retirement would be good, right? Let&#8217;s do it. Two people.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 01:03:15:15<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Let&#8217;s put it in there. Wow. 15% of take home. It&#8217;s actually more than that because you got some pretax stuff. That&#8217;s pretty good. That&#8217;s $2,000 a month being invested post-tax and another roughly $2,000 a month being invested pretax. That&#8217;s $4,000 a month. What do you think?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 01:03:35:29<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That&#8217;s great. That&#8217;s awesome. It&#8217;s pretty good. Close to 50,000 a year.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 01:03:40:28<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And now we have not factored in one other major driver here. Your income. What do you think it&#8217;s going to be. You have a sense.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 01:03:49:03<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yeah. So I can after I got a new job and after the license I can make like the my net. It&#8217;s going to be around eight eight.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 01:04:00:04<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You currently make 4200 net. Yeah. You&#8217;re going to double that. Yeah. Okay. Do you want to see what happens? Did you do this in this season. No no no no. Why not the CSP. The whole point is to play around and project people go, no, I didn&#8217;t do the one thing that would be amazing.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 01:04:19:28<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That would be fun.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 01:04:21:04<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Why not? Because. Do you believe that it&#8217;s going to happen?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 01:04:23:25<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I think so, I think to be more realistic, it&#8217;s like in a very beginning it was going to be about six. Okay. And then when the when I got stable it&#8217;s going to be about eight.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 01:04:35:04<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">All right. Well let&#8217;s see what happens at both. I do love that. It is so funny. People love to worry about money. They love to agonize about money. But the one thing they really do is actually plan for when things go well. So sometimes I get to have fun like this and show you. Let&#8217;s take a look. 6000 instead of 4200 net. Watch the numbers. It dropped to 55%. Net per month is now $14,380. This isn&#8217;t a fantasy. This is very likely to happen, right?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 01:05:07:18<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yeah, yeah. Very likely. Likely.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 01:05:09:23<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Let&#8217;s take a look at how much you now have left. You now have $3,000 a month to spend on guilt free spending. Just to bring this really down to earth. This is going to happen. It&#8217;s a matter of time. If you had $3,000 a month guilt free spending, how would your lives change?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 01:05:26:20<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And then to hear what you have to say about that.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 01:05:30:03<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I think that is kind of I consider like a financial freedom. Keep going to be reasonable and responsible. But spending money, the things that I really like to do, like going out for a dinner like trip here and there, something that I would like to buy and I can&#8217;t now.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 01:05:50:02<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Chocolates.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 01:05:51:11<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Chocolates and things like that, or some electronic that I would like to buy.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 01:05:56:10<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That&#8217;s what you do love that what I&#8217;m hearing is be reasonable, keep saving, keep investing, increase those numbers probably, but also spend a little bit on things I love. That&#8217;s how that&#8217;s how money works. That&#8217;s exactly what I would do. What do you think?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 01:06:13:06<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria I agree completely.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 01:06:15:06<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yeah okay. What&#8217;s interesting is having this conversation where we are plugging the numbers in. We are fast forwarding, even going as far as me showing you what happens when you make 8000 net. Watch this. Wow. Fixed costs dropped down to 48%. You now have $5,000 a month. Okay, we ran some numbers and I would like to show you some of the possibilities of what might happen with your finances. Okay? Okay, Andre, with your additional income, if you increase your retirement contributions by an additional $2,000 a month, by the time Maria, you are 61, the two of you will have $1.53 million. What does that mean to you?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 01:07:09:24<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Well, it means like we did it. Yeah, yeah, we did it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 01:07:15:22<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Okay, let me give you a little bit more color on what that number is. If you were to take 4% out every year, which is kind of a conservative estimate, that would mean $61,000 a year in safe withdrawal income from your investments, which is basically double our earlier projections. So if we include the pension at 50% and the new investment income that you could take out starting at age 61, for Maria, that would mean that combined with Social Security, a small amount, you would have $135,000 per year. What do you think?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 01:08:03:11<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Can you go and then I follow you?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 01:08:06:20<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We would be comfortable. We would be. We could live a good life.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 01:08:09:27<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&#8217;s going to be reasonable life. Reasonable. Okay. Not like a rich, rich, rich life that we can, like, do fancy things, but it&#8217;s safe.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 01:08:21:05<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Okay. Would you want more?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 01:08:23:07<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Would for sure.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 01:08:24:11<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Both say yes. Okay. This is how we think strategically. This is how we go from just working every day to building a plan. What are your options? Each of you give me one.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 01:08:34:21<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">He&#8217;ll only be 59, so I imagine he&#8217;s going to want to work longer.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 01:08:38:03<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Okay, so you could work.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 01:08:38:28<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Longer, number.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 01:08:39:15<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Up, work a few more years. That will allow you to invest even more. That will allow your income in retirement to go.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 01:08:46:17<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Up, save you more.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 01:08:47:28<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yes, you could cut your expenses now and contribute more to retirement. Absolutely.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 01:08:54:01<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Downsizing? Simple.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 01:08:56:03<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Great. You could move to a smaller place. You could cut down on X, y, z expenses for sure. You could do that. Okay. Back to you, Maria.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 01:09:05:22<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Did we mention making more money like increasing his income even more.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 01:09:09:27<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Could do that because right now I have $2,000 a month going towards retirement. Because if, for example, if you&#8217;re making an extra $4,000 a month, if you want to get really aggressive, you could take 3500 of that and put it towards retirement and take the 500 and have a nice time. It&#8217;s up to you. That&#8217;s a variable, I agree. Yeah. Maria suggested to you that you could work longer. What if you suggested the same thing to her?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 01:09:44:01<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How about you?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 01:09:45:16<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I was, I was, the next thing I was going to say is I could work towards another promotion where I&#8217;m making more. I still want to plan on stopping working full time as soon as I can, but that. But I can work part time for longer.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 01:10:04:01<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Nice.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 01:10:04:16<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While you&#8217;re still working. Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 01:10:06:16<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Lots of options. So there are so many things that I see. Again, this is what I&#8217;m trying to show you is how to think about a plan, because your plan has lots of different opportunities for you. If, first of all, just to find out that you&#8217;re going to make over $130,000 in retirement, retiring age 61 is amazing. Incredible. Second, the fact that you have lots of different levers to push in order to make more. You can work longer, you can work longer, you can get a promotion and go. Because I only conservatively used 50% of your salary, you can take it up to 60%. You can make more cut expenses. There are a lot of different things that you can do, but all of it is up to you. You all just get to decide. But the difference is it&#8217;s not just up to chance, which I think has been kind of an underlying belief for a long time. We seem to work harder and hope that it all works out. I don&#8217;t think so. There&#8217;s a plan you&#8217;ll get to choose.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 01:11:11:26<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I like that there&#8217;s that. There&#8217;s lots of options, and none of these have to involve Andre working till he&#8217;s 80. So that means we would get more time together.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 01:11:21:13<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Definitely. That&#8217;s the core lesson from this plan. This is a conversation where we&#8217;re talking about what do we get to do, what do we get to do? And it&#8217;s fun. It&#8217;s like, let&#8217;s stay longer in Brazil, or let&#8217;s treat our family to something beautiful, all these things, right? In order to do that, two things have to happen. One, you got to keep moving forward on the career that both of you have agreed to. But second, you actually have to probably leave some of those beliefs behind. Both of you, the beliefs that it needs to be yours versus mine, that we need to split everything 5050. Why you&#8217;re married. You all have a future together. As I say in money for couples, our future is together.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 01:12:09:08<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&#8217;s not a competition. It&#8217;s a team. Go into the same direction.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 01:12:15:00<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We&#8217;re more powerful together. Yeah, it&#8217;s nice to think it&#8217;s not that far in the future. It&#8217;s. It feels like I&#8217;ve been waiting for so long that I like. I don&#8217;t have my head out of the the weeds, and it&#8217;s like, oh, this could happen really soon.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 01:12:28:09<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Actually, there&#8217;s advice that you&#8217;re giving to us. It gives me hope.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 01:12:35:26<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Really? How come?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Andre \u2014 01:12:38:00<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I was like, okay, focus, work, work, work, work, make it happen. But I couldn&#8217;t see the future. And I was like, when finally it will happen and how far is that? I couldn&#8217;t see that. And then it brings me. It brought me hope.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maria \u2014 01:12:58:19<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I&#8217;m so glad.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ramit \u2014 01:12:59:21<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I think this couple is adorable. I mean, between us starting to shoot, they were holding hands with each other. There&#8217;s a lot of asking each other what they think, and I have a lot of confidence in this couple, not only because financially they&#8217;re actually in a pretty impressive position, but because they are talking, they are communicating, they are listening. And I can see the wheels turning as they both realize they are going to have to change the way that they interact with money. You know, one of the most powerful things in life is to know that you have levers you can pull. That&#8217;s because so much of life feels out of our control. 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